Ever had the feeling where everyone else thinks you are a genius but you? Or that you are so good at what you, you do not believe you did it and you keep believing some day you would be found out by people.
Oh yeah, you are probably dealing with the imposter or fraud personality syndrome.
One thing I can do better than anyone I’ve ever met is write in the most simplistic and basic form. I write so well I amaze myself at the outcome of each my piece, so much so that even I find it incredible that I could put together something so amazing but I had difficulty putting myself out there for people to read and owning my achievements.
In this piece I’d be sharing practical ways that I’ve dealt with the imposter syndrome in my life and owned my own successes and achievements.
Wikipedia describes “The imposter syndrome is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a ‘fraud’.”
In my personal experience it limited my creative ability because I didn’t want to be too good and have to explain to anyone how come I was that awesome.
To deal with this; the first question to ask yourself is ‘why not me?’ Why do you have to short sell yourself to get sold to anyone at all?
1.) Own your successes, accept that you indeed contributed immensely to have your achievements, then tell your story to the world the way you want it to be retold everywhere else.
2.) Be your own greatest fan, don’t second guess yourself, and when next a person asks if you were truly the owner of a certain work, look him in the eye, flip your hair backwards and say, “yes I did it!”
3.) Accept compliments and keep a profile of them. Don’t downplay compliments given to you by people who have been directly or indirectly affected by your work for good. Because better than getting paid for doing a good job is the feeling that something you do is making someone somewhere a better person and giving someone a better life thereby affecting the society and making the world a better place. In those times when you feel you can’t put yourself out there to the world, look back and read those comments, you’d be lifted in your soul.
4.) Do not ever compare yourself! As I said earlier I am the best of what I do, and I know that not by comparing myself to others but by being the best version of me. My pattern of writing is simple and basic, not flooded with unnecessary vocabulary, this is what has sold me over the years. I don’t want to be Chimamanda Adiche or Nk’iru Njoku, even though these are great writers I look up to in the profession but am grateful to be me.
5.) Find your niche, stick to it, grow with it, become better at what you do by corrective criticisms and training but never by comparing yourself to wishing you could be someone else.
6.) Lastly, don’t take life too seriously, go with the flow, allow yourself to evolve, know that you’re a work in progress, and that though someday you’d get there but you are never really “there” because for every there that “there” might be You keep raising the bar.
I want to know how you have dealt with the Imposter syndrome in your life. Please comment below.